Oh to be young again. It was never hard to find a gaming group when I was younger. In school I was always attracted to friends of like mind, and inevitably at least some of them would role-play. When I went away to university it was no different, I naturally got together with people who enjoyed the same things as me, and role-playing ensued. When I moved half a country away to be with my girlfriend I lucked out. She had friends who had similar interests and that gaming group carried me through to where I am now. I have again moved away, but this time I am not so lucky. My girlfriend has turned into my wife and we have a great son together who plays a scaled down version of D&D with me, but no group my age who can help me. So what is a guy to do?
If you find yourself in a similar situation, I am here to help. I have tried a few things and hopefully with a combination of them I will be able to find a group soon and get my game on. I will tell you about three of my favorite sites for finding other gamers in your area.
Pen and Paper Games
For those who don’t know, Pen and Paper Games is a forum/social networking site for gamers. It lets DM’s post games that they are looking for players for and then it notifies people in the area that a game has been posted. I just recently posted a “Looking for Players” announcement for my new area, and hopefully I will be able to find some people that way.
There are things I like about this site, and things I don’t like. It lets you search for games within a certain distance from you, which is great, but it does not let you search just for Dungeons and Dragons game. You can filter your searches, but if someone chose to say D&D in their post instead of Dungeons and Dragons then you are out of luck. They also send you an e-mail any time a new game appears in your area, or when new players join who are in your area.
Dungeons and Dragons Meetup
This is actually part of the larger Meetup.com network. It unfortunately did not have anything in my small town, but it did have results for Toronto, Canada. Toronto is only about an hour’s drive from where I am, so it could be possible to find someone here. Plus, with two meetup groups in the Toronto area, each with 200+ members, it is possible that I will find some other people near my town with the same problem as me.
I have had the least amount of luck with this one. I like that there are groups, but in order to create your own group rather than join another one, it seems like their are fees, so it’s not an entirely free service.
Nearby Gamers
Nearby Gamers is a neat little site that lets you create a profile where you say what games you like to play and if you are a DM or a Player, and then you put your spot on a map. If you look on the map you can also see which other players are in your area and what they are interested in and then you can contact them, or they can contact you. Very simple, clean, and useful.
This is by far the cleanest, easiest way to find gamers in your area. It cuts out all the fluff that sites like Pen and Paper games have, but at the same time doesn’t give you any of the perks (like the e-mails when people join in your area). Still it is great.
There are a lot of other ways to find gamers, and despite my love of these three sites, I have had the best success by using Kijiji for my area. I have found 1 player certainly, and possibly one more from Kijiji, while I have yet to get a bite from these other sites (though to be honest, with the exception of Pen and Paper Games I am fairly new to each of them).